2009/05/30

批評別人的藝術 The Art of Criticizing Others

我需要多少時候才可以養成批評別人之前先說出三樣別人優點的習慣?

How long it takes me to get into a habit of first recognizing three good qualities of other people before I criticize him/her? 

2009/05/28

先說一聲“好”或“Yes” To say a “Yes” first

在回應別人說話前先說一聲“Yes”不單只代表肯定接納對方所要表達的東西,它還帶出了對方和自己互有的個人邊界.

To say a “Yes” first every time we want to response to others not only shows our affirmation and acceptance to what they are saying, it brings out the individual boundary of both parties.

 

先說一聲“Yes”可以讓急於要回應的衝動緩慢下來.

To say a “Yes” first will calm down the urge to response or react.

 

先說一聲“Yes”可以體驗自己在宇宙中的渺小,讓自己在命運面前謙卑

To say a “Yes” first helps us to experience our smallness in the universe, help us humble in front of the destiny.

 

說一聲“Yes”[先跟後帶]的第一步,管它是一般社交環境或在治療諮詢的面談.

To say a “Yes” is the first step in [Pacing and Leading], whether it is a social setting or in a therapeutic counseling environment.

 

先說一聲“Yes”可以提昇對方的復原力,也可以令自己成為對方的正面資源.

To say a “Yes” first may enhance the resiliency of the other party, it may also make us a positive resource of the other party.

先說一聲“好”或“Yes”

在回應別人說話前先說一聲“Yes”不單只代表肯定接納對方所要表達的東西,它還帶出了對方和自己互有的個人邊界

先說一聲“Yes”可以讓急於要回應的衝動緩慢下來.

先說一聲“Yes”可以體驗自己在宇宙中的渺小,讓自己在命運面前謙卑